The Five Types Of Men You Have No Business Entertaining

Being single can be cruel. One moment you are on the best date of your life, quietly daydreaming of his and hers monogrammed hand towels in your summer home. Then somewhere in between your third glass of wine and the dessert course you want to walk into oncoming traffic. Its shattering when you meet a guy and he falls short of your expectations, but let's face it some guys don't even deserve a second glance. He are the five biggest time wasters for single brown girls:

1. The Open Cheater
The open cheater is a master manipulator. This subject however is not shy about his no committal ways, he will openly text, tweet and pull other females regardless of your reaction. He will have you believing that you are special and as you get sucked in you find yourself competing with the other women for his attention. If you ever decide to confront him on his ways the master card that he will always pull is that you all are not in a relationship therefore your feelings aren't justifiable. Save yourself the heartache honey.

2. The Deadbeat Dad
Now when I'm referring to this reference I'm not bashing males that have children. With the way our court systems work its very easy for a man to be labeled a dead beat father . What I am referring to is the man who has multiple children and refuses to acknowledges them or take part in their lives. If a man cannot acknowledge his own flesh and blood , what makes you think that he will acknowledge you?

3. The Taken Man
The allure of a taken man is intoxicating. For one it eliminates the idea that this guy isn't non committal and that he has enough going on for him that someone has vouched that he is a worth dating i.e. his girlfriend. Becoming romantically involved with a taken starts innocently enough. You are forced to begin a friendship with this person in the beginning because he is already in a relationship. Over time your feelings become romantic because you have connected on an emotional level first. You find yourself listening to his relationship problems and immediately plotting your plan to replace the the woman that has his heart. This type of union is dangerous because it is completely one sided and even if he breaks up with her the relationship between you and him is built on a shady foundation. Not to mention that awkward moment 6 months down the line when he meets another woman that he becomes "friends" with.

4. The Doormat
You would think that a woman would love a man that did anything she says. Th
is type of man will basically go with anything that you put on the table. He believes that giving you everything you wan would prevent you from seeking anything outside of the relationship. If its one thing that Ive learned is that relationships are all about give and take. You want someone that challenges you and even take the lead sometimes. By having you wear the pants and lead every single decision in the relationship allows the relationship to become stagnant. You will begin to resent him and lose respect. Once respect is lost in a relationship its only so long before it crashes and burns.

5. The Friend With Benefits
In this modern day most people cut the official titles completely out of the equation and get right down to the sex. Many brown girls are finding themselves in a long term friends with benefits situation. Sometimes these bonds can be equally rewarding when both parties are aware of the terms and don't try to make it out to be something its not. But like most FWB situations one individual eventually begins to try to take it to the next level to a committed relationship. Most of these situations result in you losing both your lover and friend. Going into a FWB situation in hopes of turning it into a lasting relationship will only leave you empty in the end


What I hope you take from this post , if nothing else, is to know your worth. One of the benefits of being single is that you really get to decide what you can and cannot deal with. Everybody isn't worth your time so ration it out wisely.